work/life

By on October 12, 2010 in Quick Wisdom

As a comedian, specificity of language is very important.  Changing one word can turn a joke from “sorta funny” to hilarious.  But words also express their intent, which is why I’ve recently realized how little I like the phrase “work/life balance.”  It suggests two things:

  1. Work is more important than life (it comes first), and
  2. One of the two is bad (you “balance the good with the bad”).

Some companies have tried to address #2 by calling it work/life effectiveness, but work is still first and effectiveness implies an emphasis on productivity, which is fine for my work but not the first word I want to use to describe my life (the word “fun” comes to mind).  So what do I suggest?

Life/Work Synergy

Wait, really?  Yes.  ”Synergy” may be a buzzword, and the phrase may sound “new agey,” but it works–it’s specific and speaks to what I want between my life and work.  I want my life and work to come together to produce something greater than the sum of their individual parts.  I want the work I do to be something that excites me and I want to do in it a way that not only enables my personal life, but also enhances it.  We spend 25% of our adult life (before retirement) working; I don’t want that 25% to just be a day-job.

I understand simply changing the phrase “work/life balance” to “life/work synergy” won’t magically make anyone’s situation what they want it to be, but thinking in that context will help.  Once you start looking for ways life and work can build on one another (instead of just looking for how to balance the two), you’ll find creative solutions to improve your circumstances.  And if an entire organization did that?  Well, I think we’d be on to something.

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By on August 17, 2009 in What I Learned From

improv-wisdomImprov Wisdom: Don’t Prepare, Just Show Up, by Patricia Ryan Madson, is a great read that translates the powerful concepts of improv into life lessons from which everyone can benefit.

At only 159 pages, Patricia is able to concisely cover the 12 Maxims of Improv and how they can improve your life and career. Rather than regurgitate the points below, I thought I’d share some of the most compelling insights learned from Improv Wisdom. I highly recommend you pick up a copy for yourself–the personal experiments (dubbed “Try This”) are worth the small price alone (less $12 on Amazon.com)

Life Lessons from Improv Wisdom

1. The only real failure is not doing anything. (page 17)

No matter the circumstance, whether in improv or life, you can only succeed if you take action. When you attempt something and don’t succeed, it’s not that you failed but that you’ve learned. And when you try again, you’ll have a better chance of succeeding. Failure is not even trying.

2. [Improvisation] is a method of working. (page 22)

Improv is certainly an art, and a science in many respects, but it is also a way of working. The method of improvising in life doesn’t mean never planning or just going with the flow–it means being able to do what’s necessary given the right circumstances.

3. The mind that is occupied is missing the present. (page 35)

Humans are amazing creatures with incredible talents, but multitasking isn’t one of them. If we are preoccupied with something else, we’re missing the now.

We are at our best when we work in the now. Actors refer to it as being “in the moment.” For athletes, they are “in the zone.” For everyone, it’s really about just being “in the now”–paying attention to and focusing on the present.

4. Motivation is not a prerequisite for showing up. (page 52)

Motivation, or lack thereof, is often the scapegoat for not getting things done. “I would clean the garage but I’m just not motivated.” “I would go running but I don’t have any motivation.” “I would start that project that I’ve put off for 2 years but…” Just show up and see what happens. 9 times out of 10, you’ll actually accomplish something.

5. Try thinking inside the box. Look more carefully. (page 63)

A common misconception about creativity is that you have to change your thinking; in reality, you only have to change how you think. And not drastically, just specifically. The common cliche that “everyone is different” is true because we are the sum of all our experiences, and no two people grow up with the same exact experiences.

That uniqueness alone provides the skills to “think differently”–if we pay attention to our thoughts and trust our instincts, our ideas will be different and creative, even if they seem obvious to us.

6. Life is all about balancing, not about being balanced. (page 81)

Peter Drucker talks about a well-run factory/business as being boring because nothing exciting happens–everything runs as expected and contingencies are in place for any possibly issues. Life isn’t (and shouldn’t be) like that.

Instead, life is about the daily balancing act of taking the good with the bad, the necessary with the unnecessary, and the planned with the improvised.

7. Ask yourself, what would not get done if I were not here? (page 87)

When trying to determine the best use of your time, look at what unique contributions you can bring to the situation. If someone else can do the job better than you, enable them to–focus on what only your set of skills and experience can accomplish.

8. See the gift in it. (page 90)

Patricia explains there are three ways to look at any event in life: to see what’s wrong with it, to see it objectively, or to see the gift in it. The improvisers learn to see the gift, and this attitude can change how you perceive and experience the world. Problems become opportunities and failure becomes our greatest teacher.

Of course this is not to say bad things don’t or won’t happen. James K. Feibleman said it best “That some good can be derived from every event is a better proposition than that everything happens for the best, which it assuredly does not.”

9. There are no Olympic judges watching our lives. (page 103)

Take chances, make mistakes, look silly. We will always be our own harshest critic and it’s time to realize that we don’t live in a world that requires perfection. Learn to accept good enough because it is better than nothing.

10. The essence of improvisation is action. (page 114)

Beginning improvisers often get caught up in talking about what would be cool or interesting or funny instead of putting it into action. Life demands action.

Patricia put it best: “Motivation is not required. Good intentions, beliefs, resolutions, even promises don’t matter. Action does.” (page 116)

Improv Wisdom

These are just 10 insights I learned from Improv Wisdom by Patricia Ryan Madson, but there are a number of other great lessons within the pages.  If you liked the ideas here or want to see them explored further, pick up Improv Wisdom on Amazon.

Have you read Improv Wisdom? What did you learn from the book.

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By on August 17, 2009 in Recommended Reading

improv-wisdomImprov Wisdom, by Patricia Ryan Madson, is one of my favorite books on the use of improv for non-performance. The book focuses not on the act of improv, but on the life lessons learned from the art and the change it can effect. To me, it answers the question for performers and non-performers alike, “why improvise?”

Buy Now | Read Life Lessons from Improv Wisdom

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By on March 8, 2009 in What I Learned From

With the release of Watchmen this weekend comes a lot of hype and anticipation for the graphic novel turned movie.  The graphic novel, originally published as a series in 1986-87, has long been heralded as the best novel of its kind.  Time Magazine even listed it as one of the 100 Best Novels.

I recently read the book and must admit that there is a reason there was so much hype around this story of “superhero” characters.  Watchmen changed a genre and turned superhero comics into stories of real-life with real life lessons.

Storytelling has long been an effective means to affect people in profound ways, from the days of Homer (the Greek poet), to the days of Homer (the Simpson).  Watchmen is no different of a story, with compelling life lessons in the story, hidden (or maybe not-so-much) in between the gritty, dark journey of the characters.

Before going on, I do want mention a few things.  First, Watchmen isn’t a kid’s comic and therefore some of the themes and images aren’t exactly G-rated.  With that in mind, I’ve tried to keep this post mostly suitable for work (MSFW), and all of the life lessons that I saw were positive–it’s just the context from which they came may not be seen that way.

Second, I cover the whole gamut of the story, so you can probably piece together the story through the lessons.  If you haven’t read the book or seen the movie, continue reading at your own risk (aka this is a “possible spoiler alert”).

Life Lessons Learned from Watchmen:

“Don’t Tell Me They Didn’t Have a Choice.”

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Chapter 1, Page 1

Rorschach’s first journal entry states it plainly: everyone has a choice.  Whether it’s to be involved in a nuclear arms race, or to be stuck in a dead-end job, people make a choice to be where they are.

While many people wait around for something to happen, the people who find success are those that decide they will go out and get it.  As Eisenhower said, “The history of free men is never written by chance but by choice–their choice.”

“Gettin’ old, you get a different perspective.”

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Chapter 2, Page 2

While the particular incident Sally Jupiter is referring to is quite extreme, her point-of-view is still valid and one that many people don’t realize until they get older.  Whatever your age is, think back 10 years ago and think about what you thought was important at that time.  Is it still important?  If you were in high school 10 years ago, was it really important what clothes you were wearing or even whether it mattered that you got a 95% instead of a 97% (yes I got upset about that).

In the long run, when lying on your death-bed, no one wishes they would have spent more time at work or even made more money, they wish they would have enjoyed life more and spent time with their friends and family.  Why wait until death to wish that? Start doing it now.

“Nothing is hopeless.”

Chapter 2, Page 2

Chapter 2, Page 25

As long as there is life, nothing is hopeless.  Certainly there are times we all reach rock-bottom, where things seem insurmountable, but that’s the amazing thing about the human spirit.  Even when we’re down at the bottom, there is always hope.  We can make changes, we can take the action necessary to move in the right direction.

Just look to a number of inspirational stories such as the “Miracle on the Hudson” where Pilot Chesley B. “Sully” Sullenberger III safely landed a plane on the Hudson River, saving all 155 passengers.  Look at the “comeback” stories of high-profile celebrities like Mickey Rourke.  Or even look at leaders such as Martin Luther King, Jr.  He must have known that he wasn’t going to end racism by himself, but he still dreamed, and he still took action to make it a reality.

“I feel as if I’ve been here all the time.”

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Chapter 4, Page 13

Though Doctor Manhattan is also referencing his metaphysical sense of time, his view on having “always been here” is an accurate one.  Janey Slater suggesting that “he’s arrived” because he now has fame and notoriety is inaccurate.  People hold certain accomplishments up on a pedestal thinking they will only be successful when they reach that step, but success is different for every person.

Becoming CEO of a company doesn’t mean you are more successful than a stay-at-home Mom that has raised 3 children–the measures of success are different.  The key is to define your vision of success and work to achieve it.  And specifically on the concept of fame, recall that Ralph Waldo Emerson observed, “Fame is proof that people are gullible.”

“Things have their shape in time, not space alone.”

Chapter 4, Page 24

Chapter 4, Page 24

George Bernard Shaw said, “You see things and say ‘Why?’  But I dream things that never were and say ‘Why not?’”  Doctor Manhattan’s observes that what is now just a block of stone can one day be the Statue of David.

The same is true for people.  Every person has the opportunity to do something unique, something powerful.  And while it may not be that way right now, hard work and perseverance can make that change; it’s hidden underneath the stone, just waiting to be chiseled into the next masterpiece.

“Even the word ‘gone’ would be gone.”

Chapter 5, Page 12

Chapter 5, Page 12

Bernard’s first thoughts when thinking of a disaster turn to the obvious of people, cars, etc.  But then he has a realization that bigger things, like the construct of language and that of societal interaction would be gone as well, and that’s the bigger disaster.  This is much the same as how many people view life–they think of the material things and material girls.  But rarely do we step back and appreciate something as simple as social interaction–friends, family, community, and even enemies.

Similar to Sally’s observation above, what’s going to be more important to you as you get older, and therefore, what is more important for you to focus on now?

“My Perspective.”

Chapter 8, Page 14

Chapter 8, Page 14

Whenever Rorschach speaks, it is short and to the point.  Here, in the face of what seems to be an impossible situation, he has two things on his side: perspective and confidence.  And these two things are often what will allow people to succeed in the face of adversity.

Based on your experiences, you have a unique view of every situation, and that perspective is what makes you different from everyone else out there.  Whether it’s as a writer, actor, project manager, or barista, your perspective will be different.  Combine that with having confidence in yourself and your abilities, and just as Charles F. Kettering said of the Wright Brothers, you can fly “right threw the smoke screen of impossibility.”

“You could say that about anybody in the world.”

Chapter 9, Page 27

Chapter 9, Page 27

The thermodynamic miracle referenced by Laurie Jupiter is that of birth, and Doctor Manhattan has realized that the odds required for people to get together and have this child or that child is a miracle; a miracle that is true of anybody in the world.

Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of the miracle of life, and as cheesy as it sounds, every person does have the opportunity to make their own unique impact on the world–the question is what will yours be?

“Offices below, headstones marking daily graves of thousands.”

Chapter 10, Page 22

Chapter 10, Page 22

In Rorschach’s final journal entry, he shares again a different perspective (both literally and figuratively).  Literally, up above the city, the skyscrapers and buildings do look something like tombstones in a cemetery.  Figuratively, living only to work may not be physical death, but is it really living? Is working 80-hour weeks, neglecting friends and family or unique life experiences, really the Hokie Pokie (that’s what it’s all about)?

Burg’s Philosophy holds true for the time you spend at work, as well as in life: “It’s not the time you put in, but what you put in the time.”

“No time like the present.”

Chapter 11, Page 4

Chapter 11, Page 4

Perhaps, like Ozymandias, you have a plan or idea of something that you want to do, but have been waiting for the “perfect” time to do it.  Well the perfect time was yesterday, so you might as well do it today.

People will find all kinds of reasons to procrastinate (“the timing’s not right,” “the weather is gloomy,” “‘The Hills’ is on”), but you only need that one good reason to do it, that one reason that starts you on your new plan or idea, and that reason is: there is no time like the present.  After all, it is called the ‘present’–it’s a gift for us to use.  And it may not turn out perfect, or you may not know what will happen, but don’t forget…

“The excitement of not knowing.”

Chapter 12, Page 7

Chapter 12, Page 7

One of the scariest things about trying something new–acting on a plan or idea you had, or moving in a different direction–is the uncertainty of what will happen.  But that’s also part of the excitement.

If you had the option to see the future, would you want to be able to?  As Doctor Manhattan discovered, it takes the fun and surprise out of living.  It’s like knowing the end of Sixth Sense, The Usual Suspects or Watchmen before even seeing the movie–sure you can watch the movies and still be entertained, but you won’t get that same sense of enjoyment and satisfaction when the twist is revealed.

“Nothing ever ends.”

Chapter 12, Page 27

Chapter 12, Page 27

I know plenty of people that believe if they just get a certain job, or make a certain amount of money, or even buy a certain gadget, that they’ll be happy, that everything will be perfect.  But “in the end,” nothing ever ends.  Even if you get that job, life continues on after.  You’ll have new adventures and new challenges, but not everything will perfect.  But who would want it to be?  Our failures lead to successes, and we appreciate them more.

Life is not just about the awards, statuses, or objects we obtain, but the journey we took to obtain them–we will spend much more of our time on the journey than on accepting the awards.  So as you work toward your goals, hopes, or dreams, make sure the path you take is one you enjoy.  Thomas A. Edison knew this well: “I never did a day’s work in my life.  It was all fun.”

Source

Watchmen is a great story with compelling characters–there’s a reason it’s one of the top 100 novels.  If you’re interested in reading the book (which you should), you can pick it up at Amazon.com.

Watchmen. Moore, Alan and Dave Gibbons. New York, NY: DC Comics, 1986, 1987.

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