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By on June 8, 2010 in What I Learned From

Humor has many benefits–it can bring you closer to another person,  ease the tension in a room and help you deal with difficult circumstances, like becoming paralyzed.  Such is the tale in Sally Franz’s Scrambled Leggs: A Snarky Tale of Hospital Hooey, a book about laughter, pain, and everything in between.

Scrambled Leggs

In the eBook, Sally tells of her experience of dealing with Transverse Myelitis, an auto-immune disease that left her paralyzed from the waist down.  But the book isn’t just about that story, it’s also a memoir of events that shaped who Sally is, a how-to guide on dealing with difficult situations, and of course a humorous read.  Sally holds nothing back, sharing her highs and lows, doubts and concerns, and opinions on everything ranging from faith to politics.  And while I don’t agree with all of her views, I do agree with on this: one of the best way’s to survive this thing called life is to “Use humor, sarcasm and be generous with smiles.”

With that in mind, here are 7 Humor Lessons from Scrambled Leggs:

1. Humor can be simple.

“I made a list of very simple things I love (fresh linen, flowers, birds, cheesecake, prisms). I choose to have ONE of these items (at least) in my life every day.” (page 16)

Some people feel like incorporating humor into their lives means that they have to become a stand-up comedian, and while that’s one way to do it, there are much easier ways to add a little levity.  Just creating a list of simple things you love like Sally did, and experiencing at least one per day, can go a long way in reducing stress and improving your attitude.

2. You have to take time to play.

“Why not have a playdate with yourself?” (page 46)

When we were kids, our only responsibility seemed to be to have fun.  But as adults we have many more obligations and playing falls by the wayside.  That’s why it’s important to schedule the time to enjoy humor, even if it means blocking an hour on your schedule during the day to be able to take a walk or read a book.  Sally only learned the value of this when she was forced to rest and encourages the rest of us to not wait that long.

3. Gratitude inspires humor.

“A grateful person is fun to be around because they never demand blessings and yet they see them everywhere.” (page 50)

Being appreciative of what you do have (instead of longing for what you don’t) goes along way in improving moods.  And we all know that being near someone who enjoys what they’ve got is much more fun than being around someone who complains all the time.

4. Humor inspires hope.

“I don’t have a whole lot of woo-woo-whoopie-doo-type joy all the time. But, I have a sense of humor and that gives me hope.” (page 54)

Sally stays honest with herself and the readers–she doesn’t pretend that everything is perfect.  That’s because humor isn’t going to make life perfect, but it will make it manageable.  Having a sense of humor won’t stop you from feeling sad at times, but it will help you rebound and know that things can be better.

5. Humor is a choice.

“‘You can choose to have a nice day, even if you don’t feel like it. So start choosing, NOW!’” (page 135)

This advice from Sally’s mom is incredibly important but so often missed.  You choose how something makes you feel, and how you feel in general.  Choose to have a nice day by seeing what’s been going well that day, by looking for reasons to laugh, and by smiling.  Simply putting a grin on your face can trick your body into believing that today has been a great day.

6. Humor helps the things you can’t control.

“Dude, you might as well sit back and enjoy the ride. The time to sweat bullets is right before you get on the plane when you still have a choice.” (page 251)

We have to make a lot of decisions in our lives and many of those can be stressful–you may not always know what the “right” thing is.  However once you’ve made a decision (such as sitting on an airplane mid-flight), it’s time to enjoy what you can because you can’t go back and not get on that flight.  Once you’ve made a decision, go forth and embrace it.

7. Humor heals.

“I finally came up with a solution. Create moments that are so overwhelmingly funny that you forget you don’t have your health.” (page 262)

Humor won’t stop cancer or cure Sally’s Transverse Myelitis, but it can heal your soul.  Laughter is the best medicine because it can help you heal mentally and, for brief periods of time, help you forget about the woes in the world and in your body.  And while humor does help improve your immune system, increase tolerance to pain, and reduce stress, it’s the change in attitude and mood that improves your quality of life, and that’s one of the most important things to heal.

Scrambled Leggs

Sally shares a lot of wisdom in her book, both on humor and on living.  But perhaps one of the most important things that stuck out to me was this overriding concept:  Humor is free, so be generous with it.  To find out more, check out the book’s website or purchase Scrambled Leggs on Amazon.

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By on November 4, 2009 in Learn with Humor
photo by Lisa Liang

photo by Lisa Liang

When it comes to music, hip-hop gets a bad rap (pun intended).  The stereotype is that all rap songs are about money, drugs, and/or women.  And while that’s true for a lot of the songs that make it to the radio and the clubs, there are a number songs that can be inspiring and motivating.

Below are lyrics from 12 rap songs to get inspired, motivated, and pumped up.  If you don’t usually listen to rap, suspend your preconceived notions and actually read the lyrics, you may be surprised at the poignancy of the words.

Note: Rap and hip-hop are two different, albeit similar, genres.  For purposes of this post, I’m grouping them together.

12 Inspirational Rap Lyrics

1. Sky is the Limit by Notorious BIG [Listen]

Sky is the limit and you know that you keep on,
Just keep on pressin on.
Sky is the limit and you know that you can have
what you want, be what you want.

2. Beautiful by Eminem [Listen]

Don’t let them say you ain’t beautiful
They can all get f—–, just stay true to you

3. Keep Ya Head Up by Tupac [Listen]

But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up

4. Amazing by Kanye West [Listen]

I’m a monster, I’m a maven,
I know this world is changin’.
Never gave in, never gave up,
I’m the only thing I’m afraid of.

5. Superstar by Lupe Fiasco [Listen]

If you are what you say you are
A superstar
Then have no fear
The camera’s is here
and the microphones and they wanna know
Oh oh oh oh yeah
If you are what you say you are
Then have no fear

6. U Don’t Know by Jay Z [Listen, explicit]

Put me anywhere on God’s green earth, I’ll triple my worth.
Motherf—–. I, will, not, lose.

7. Live Your Life by T.I. [Listen]

Nevermind what haters say,
ignore them ’til they fade away.

8. Be by Common [Listen]

Never looking back or too far in front of me.
The present is a gift, and I just wanna BE.

9. Child of the Night by Ludacris [Listen]

Life is short if you don’t notice it’ll pass you by,
That’s why my head is in the clouds trying to pass the sky.

10. Everything is Everything by Lauryn Hill [Listen]

Everything is everything
What is meant to be, will be
After winter, must come spring
Change, it comes eventually

11. I Can by Nas [Listen]

If the truth is told, the youth can grow
Then learn to survive until they gain control
Nobody says you have to be gangstas, hoes
Read more learn more, change the globe

12. B.O.B. by Outkast [Listen]

Make a business for yourself, boy, set some goals
Make a fat diamond out of dusty coals

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