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By on November 22, 2010 in Learn with Humor

The following story is a break from the normal posts on the site, but one I thought I’d share.  I wrote it to be included with HR Ringleader’s Game Changing Moments and thought it might be of interest to some people who are curious about how a computer engineer found and started using humor.

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8th Floor Improv

The day started like any other day of my sophomore year at The Ohio State University. I woke up at 10am after hitting the snooze button 2 or 300 times, went to my engineering classes after eating a champion’s breakfast of S’mores Pop Tarts and Dr. Pepper, and then went to study for my major at the time: Halo (the videogame, not the yet-to-be-released Beyonce song or the hat angels wear).

As we entered our third or fourth 3-hour game of Capture The Flag against opponents down the hall, my best friend, Nate (and incidentally the only person that could consistently beat me at Halo), said something that would change my life.  Of course I didn’t know this at the time, it just seemed like something to talk about while we beat the pants off Nate’s residents (did I mention we were both Resident Advisors?).

Nate was (and still is, but we’ll keep things in the past tense for the sake of continuity) a stark contrast to me, and that’s probably why we’ve gotten along so well since we first met in the seventh grade back in Cincinnati. He was a Psychology major, I was a Computer Science & Engineering major with a minor in Business. I took four years to finish a typical five year program, he took five years to finish a typical four year program. He was naturally charismatic and when he spoke, he got people’s attention. I was naturally awkward and when I spoke, I got pained looks from the people listening. I was white, he was black.

But the biggest contrast was that he usually said the funny things, I usually said the smart things. He’d make people laugh, I’d make people think. Of course there were times where one of us would occasionally steal the other person’s thunder; I was occasionally funny and he was occasionally brilliant.

On this day, he was occasionally brilliant.

With the score 2-0 in favor of the good guys, we were resting pretty easily as we continued to “lay the smack down” on the freshmen down the hall. The four of us in the room (two other friends, Chris and Moran, whose lives also changed that day and the other 2 people on our 4-person team), were joking around as we normally did. Chris and Moran were opposites just as Nate and I were. Chris was a large, brooding white man. Moran was a skinny, hilarious black man. Moran could talk his way out of just about any situation even if he had no idea what he was talking about. Chris could barely talk his way into any situation, even if he knew exactly what he was talking about. Chris was an incredibly intelligent person trapped in an awkward socializer’s body. Moran was a incredibly funny person existing in a ball of fun.

With a click of Moran’s trigger and a toss of Chris’s grenade, we won the game. Moran sniped any defense the other team put up and Chris flipped the jeep foolishly trying to escape with our flag, and I escorted Nate and the other team’s flag back to our base for the final point.  We celebrated, we laughed, we mocked our inferior opponents (in a sportmanslike, definitely-appropriate-for-being-their-RA’s manner.

And then it came. As the laughter died down and the four of us sat in the tiny dorm room given to RA’s, narrow enough to touch both walls at the same time, Nate said the
words that would change our lives.

“We should start our own improv group.”

Disappointed? Surprised? Expecting something profound and quote-worthy? The sentence itself was nothing profound but the concept, and what would happen as a result, was.

Prior to this sentence, I was on a path to computer stardom.  Until this point, I had never done anything theater related and was always the nerd in school. I graduated in the top 1% of my high school class, got a full scholarship to attend Ohio State and was working towards those engineering and business degrees so I could become the next Bill Gates (or at least an entrepreneur or corporate executive working in the tech field). That sentenced changed that, but like I said, we had no idea at the time. We had no clue what we were getting into, we just said, “Yes.”

To fill in some much needed detail, Nate had done some theater work back in high school, and as part of his classes, he did improvisation–exercises based on making things up in the moment. At Ohio State, he found a college group that did improv shows. He joined the already hilarious cast and had some very funny shows with the group.

Our sophomore year, Chris and I auditioned for the group. Chris got in based on his far too vast referential knowledge, and I did not (I do want to point that I was invited to callbacks but had to miss due to my responsibilities as an RA, and that’s the reason I didn’t make it. Or at least, that’s what I’ve been telling myself).

While Nate and Chris enjoyed performing in the group, they realized something was lacking, something could be better. The group, funny as they were, only met a few times a month and only averaged a show once a quarter. What was missing was more–more practice, more performances, more time doing this thing called improv.

Nate came up with the idea that we could start our own improv group. We, with the collective experience of about one year of improv (Nate’s year plus a quarter’s worth from Chris; Moran and I had no improv experience), decided that day to say “Yes.”  We summoned the help of two other friends (neither with improv experience) and started practicing in the basement of the residence hall where I was an RA.

Two and a half years and countless hours of unguided practices and some good and some not-so-good shows later, the group was celebrating their 50th Show in front of a 200+ person crowd at a theater off-campus. The original founders graduated and left the group in the hands of the very capable members left in the group. Each year new members come in as old members graduate, and The 8th Floor Improv Comedy Group still exists today, performing sold-out shows every month. They’ve been featured on-screen in-front of the 100,000 fans at Ohio Stadium during Buckeye games and perform to thousands of incoming freshmen at orientation.

As for us, Nate moved on to Chicago where he took classes at iO and Second City and is now a house player at iO and working in various shows at Second City. Chris stayed
in Columbus, started his own graphic design company and continues to improvise throughout the city. Moran moved to Chicago, is engaged with a child (he’s not engaged to a child, he’s an engaged to a wonderful woman and has a child) and taking improv classes when his family-life allows.

And me, I’m living in NYC working for a Fortune 20 Company as a Project Manager and self-proclaimed Corporate Humorist. I’m taking classes at The Magnet and Upright Citizens Brigade performing improv and stand-up across the city, and blogging/consulting/training on humor through my company, Humor That Works.

And all of it is a result of a simple, non-poetic, sentence from a best friend my sophomore year of college.

“We should start our own improv group.”

5 of the 6 founders, 2007. L->R Moran, Chris, Nate, Damon, Drew

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By on November 21, 2010 in Quick Wisdom

I’ve been studying musical improv recently and one of the best tips I’ve learned so far is the power of the chorus–the part of the song that is deadly simple and repeated over and over (and over and over) again.  Why is the repetition of the chorus so powerful? Because the people listening can learn it and then participate–they know what to expect and they can join in.

However, if you have a song that is only verses–all the lines are different with nothing you go back to or repeat–then it’s much harder to learn the song and sing along.  It takes a much longer time, requires more repetition and often isn’t as satisfying (until you learn all the words to Bohemian Rhapsody, and then it’s great (but only for the people singing it, not for the other people at the karaoke bar)).

What’s my point? Organizations should be like songs with great choruses.  Their structure should be simplified, there should be consistency and you don’t want to change it before people have gotten a chance to learn it and then start participating in it.  Of course change will happen, the organization will evolve and you’ll move from Please Please Me Beatles to Abbey Road Beatles over time, but only after you’ve allowed your employees to grow within the organization.

So be smart about your organizational changes, plan them out and then when they’re finally implemented, let your organization sing the chorus for awhile.

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By on February 24, 2010 in Learn with Humor

When you take a look at all of the benefits of humor, it’s hard to understand why there isn’t more humor at work.  This is getting better (I don’t think they were having a whole lot of fun in the coal mines, but I could be wrong), but there is still far too little fun in the workplace.

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So what’s preventing work from actually being enjoyable?  Here are 5 things people believe that are stopping them from having more fun.

1) Humor at work is inappropriate.

The biggest reason most people don’t have fun at work is they think it’s inappropriate.  They believe that “business is serious, so we better be serious.”  Apparently no one told Google or Zappos this.

The reality is that humor in the workplace leads to happier, healthier and more productive employees.

2) No one will take me seriously.

Some people worry that if they use humor in the workplace, no one will take them seriously when it comes to actual business.  Luckily, this isn’t true.  In fact, leaders use humor, not ignore it.  As Mr. Smith (that’s Sydney Smith, not Agent Smith) said:

“You must not think me necessarily foolish because I am facetious, nor will I consider you necessarily wise because you are grave.” – Sydney Smith

3) There’s nothing fun about what I do.

Many people refuse to believe that there job can be more fun.  And while I won’t deny that some jobs are less fun than others, it doesn’t mean any job can’t be improved.  Whether you work at a fast-food restaurant, do data entry or manage a small company, your work can be more fun, it’s just a matter of finding out how.

Simple challenges to yourself or coworkers can help you get you through your day; setting your desktop background to something you want to achieve can give you inspiration; playing with a slinky during downtime can give you something to do–there are hundreds of ways to have humor at work.

4) It takes too time / cost too much money.

Some people fear that incorporating humor in the workplace means huge effort and spending money.   Humor at work doesn’t require elaborate events or special props–phone calls can made more fun by playing some music or sharing some pictures.

Keep your humor effort simple and you’ll have fun without any additional overhead.

5) No one else cares.

People desperately want you to help them have fun.  Think about who you like to spend time with in the office, it’s the people who always have that interesting story to share or that funny video from YouTube.

Using humor at work requires leadership, and you’re a leader aren’t you?  Even if you are in the lowest position at your company, you can take the initiative to make the workplace more enjoyable.  All it takes is a little creativity.

Need ideas on adding humor at work?  Check out some posts on how to use humor in the workplace.  Got a few ideas of your own? Leave ‘em in the comments.

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By on December 28, 2009 in Learn with Humor
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Every year, over 100 million Americans make a New Year’s Resolution; only 18% of those people will actually keep it.  If less than 1/5th of the people that make a resolution actually keep them, why even bother coming up with a new goal to start working on the first of year?  We’ll get to that, but first…

Why New Year’s Resolutions Suck

New Year’s Resolutions have a number of things working against them, but it comes down to three main reasons of Suck.

Reason of Suck #1 – Procrastination

The big problem with New Year’s Resolutions is that we wait until the “magical” date of the first of the year to start them.  You might think in October, “you know, I should start exercising,” but then think, “oh, well I’ll just wait till the New Year and start off fresh.”

This is just a way of procrastinating.  Why not start working on the new goal when you first start thinking about it? January 1st is just another day on the calendar, yet we wait for it to come to do things we could start doing today.

Reason of Suck #2 – Lack of Preparation

The second reason New Year’s Resolutions suck is that we push off even starting on our resolution till the first of the year.  The problem is that if you want to actually succeed at your goal, you’ll need to do some planning.  Research tips on your new goal, read about success stories of other people, find like-minded people that can keep you committed.

Waiting until the day you want to make a change to even create a plan on how to make the change is what lands you in the 82% of people who don’t make it.

Reason of Suck #3 – Intimidation/De-motivation

The final reason New Year’s Resolutions suck is that they are too intimidating.  Generally, when we set a goal at the beginning of the year, it’s for the entire year.  We assume that we can go from behaving one way (such as smoking) on one day, to then behaving another way (not smoking) the next.  And we think we will behave the new way forever.

Thinking about making a change for the rest of your life is intimidating; it’s daunting and scary.   Plus when we mess up, it becomes de-motivating (“I’ll never learn to eat the right number of fruits and vegetables every day.”) Instead, think in smaller chunks.  First try to work on your resolution for just a week, or 30 days.  Then link those weeks together and you’ll eventually get to that full year with the new behavior.

Why You Should Make Them Anyway

So if New Year’s Resolutions suck, why even make them?  Because they’re better than nothing.  They’re better than sitting around  and accepting the status quo.  If the change of the new year is what motivates you to do something, then take advantage of it and do it.

Because even if you don’t succeed at never hitting snooze again in your life, you’ll do better than if you never set the goal to begin with.  And that’s why you make a New Year’s Resolution.

How to Improve Your Chances of Success

So now that you know some of the pitfalls of New Year’s Resolutions, but why you should make them anyway, you may want to get some help so you can be one of the successful ones.  For some articles with helpful tips, check out:

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Acting Out: Improv Exercises Cultivate Team Building

June 18, 2009

Improv exercises can cultivate team building, customer service skills, brainstorming, and more according to an article I recently read from HRMagazine.  The article, which shared business cases from various corporations, covered some of the basic ways improv can benefit the workplace.  Some highlights include: “Many theater professionals have realized that the very rules improv is [...]

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